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Five Ways to Combat the Blues and Win
Five Ways to Combat the Blues and Win By Mike Moore
As Neil Diamond sang in his song Song Sung Blue “ Me and you are subject to the blues now and then...” Awe the blues!! Those feelings of joylessness, hopelessness, and blahness. They usually occur after a happy event, on the occurrence of something sad or simply for no other reason than it’s winter and we’re tired of it. They can also be brought on by a nostalgic trip down memory lane especially at Christmas or New Years. When we remember with fondness the “ good old days” and remain too long with our memories we run the risk of a bout with the blues. I always say that the past is a wonderful place to visit but a dangerous place to stay. Whenever the blues come they can suck the joy out of life and give new meaning to the word “down”.
Here are five ways to effectively combat the blues and win every time.
1. Put the blues in perspective.
It helps to remember that the blues are merely feelings - feelings that flow from our dominant thoughts and just like any other feelings, they pass. When we feel affectionate it passes. We don’t feel affectionate all the time. When we’re angry, the anger passes. The same applies to the blues. You’ll find that they pass more quickly if you don’t dwell on them. Just relax and wait for them to pass. While waiting here are a few effective strategies you can apply to ensure their quick passage.
2. Thought Replacement
If the blues come from our negative thoughts and we are able to control the thoughts we have then whenever we have a fearful, disturbing, lonely ,or depressing thought visualize it leaving your mind and being replaced by a happier more enjoyable one. Create a bank of happy, pleasant thoughts to use as replacements.
3. Forget yourself in the service of others.
I think it was Tennyson who said “ We must lose ourselves in action lest we wither is despair.” He was suffering the loss of a dear friend and found that serving others helped him forget his grief for awhile and helped him heal. There is nothing more effective than forgetting yourself in the service of other to banish the blues. “ I had the blues because I had no shoes when upon the street I met a man who had no feet.”
4. Learn how to relax.
Frequently the blues make an appearance when we are stressed and over-extended. Physical and mental relaxation help restore calmness and peace to our frantic lives and in the process enhance our resistance to the blues.
By the way laughter is an excellent way to cut stress in half and promote healing relaxation. It is impossible to worry when we laugh and worry is one of the major stress inducers.
5. Look for the comedy in your chaos.
Funny things happen to us everyday. When they do most of us give a brief chuckle and move on with life. In my book “ Light Up With Laughter” I teach the art of “Mining the Moment” whereby I encourage my readers to extract every ounce of humor from the funny things that happen to us daily. When you do this and give yourself permission to laugh heartily and enjoy fully you reap the many therapeutic benefits laughter provides. It helps to constantly recall that life is just too serious to be taken seriously.
As the song says,the blues come to us all now and then. They are just part of the human condition. The next time you have the blues try some of these suggestions and experience how you too can combat the blues and win.
Mike Moore is an international speaker on “ Humor and Stress Management”, Humor in the Workplace” and “ Humor and Human Potential” His articles and cartoons have appeared in publications throughout Canada and the USA.
http://www.motivationalplus.com
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Five Ways to Combat the Blues and Win
By Mike Moore
As Neil Diamond sang in his song Song Sung Blue “
Me and you are subject to the blues now and
then...” Awe the blues!!
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Those feelings of
joylessness, hopelessness, and blahness. They
usually occur after a happy event, on the
occurrence of something sad or simply for no other
reason than it’s winter and we’re tired of it.
They can also be brought on by a nostalgic trip
down memory lane especially at Christmas or New
Years. When we remember with fondness the “ good
old days” and remain too long with our memories we
run the risk of a bout with the blues. I always
say that the past is a wonderful place to visit
but a dangerous place to stay. Whenever the blues
come they can suck the joy out of life and give
new meaning to the word “down”.
Here are five ways to effectively combat the blues
and win every time.
1. Put the blues in perspective.
It helps to remember that the blues are merely
feelings - feelings that flow from our dominant
thoughts and just like any other feelings, they
pass. When we feel affectionate it passes. We
don’t feel affectionate all the time. When we’re
angry, the anger passes. The same applies to the
blues. You’ll find that they pass more quickly if
you don’t dwell on them. Just relax and wait for
them to pass. While waiting here are a few
effective strategies you can apply to ensure their
quick passage.
2. Thought Replacement
If the blues come from our negative thoughts and
we are able to control the thoughts we have then
whenever we have a fearful, disturbing, lonely ,or
depressing thought visualize it leaving your mind
and being replaced by a happier more enjoyable
one. Create a bank of happy, pleasant thoughts to
use as replacements.
3. Forget yourself in the service of others.
I think it was Tennyson who said “ We must lose
ourselves in action lest we wither is despair.” He
was suffering the loss of a dear friend and found
that serving others helped him forget his grief
for awhile and helped him heal. There is nothing
more effective than forgetting yourself in the
service of other to banish the blues. “ I had the
blues because I had no shoes when upon the street
I met a man who had no feet.”
4. Learn how to relax.
Frequently the blues make an appearance when we
are stressed and over-extended. Physical and
mental relaxation help restore calmness and peace
to our frantic lives and in the process enhance
our resistance to the blues. By the way laughter
is an excellent way to cut stress in half and
promote healing relaxation. It is impossible to
worry when we laugh and worry is one of the major
stress inducers.
5. Look for the comedy in your chaos.
Funny things happen to us everyday. When they do
most of us give a brief chuckle and move on with
life. In my book “ Light Up With Laughter” I teach
the art of “Mining the Moment” whereby I encourage
my readers to extract every ounce of humor from
the funny things that happen to us daily. When you
do this and give yourself permission to laugh
heartily and enjoy fully you reap the many
therapeutic benefits laughter provides. It helps
to constantly recall that life is just too serious
to be taken seriously.
As the song says,the blues come to us all now and
then. They are just part of the human condition.
The next time you have the blues try some of these
suggestions and experience how you too can combat
the blues and win.
Subscribe to Mike's newsletter Lifeline at http://www.motivationalplus.com
Mike Moore is an international speaker on “ Humor
and Stress Management”, Humor in the Workplace”
and “ Humor and Human Potential” His articles and
cartoons have appeared in publications throughout
Canada and the USA.
About the Author
Mike Moore is an international speaker/ humorist whose articles and cartoons have appeared in publications throughout Canada and the USA.
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